The everyday life is especially formed by the habits you’ve developed with the people around you. You keep on repeating your philosophy of life by living your conscious and unconscious values.
The way you approach the world around you is giving you safety trough structure, but it’s also restraining you from braking with habits.
Not every habit leads you to being genuinely happy with yourself and the life around you. Some of the habits can be offensive and harmful not only for you but also for parts of your environment.
The question is “how much influence and control do we possess in the decision making process?”.
Dualistically spoken we could distinguish between being the victim of our inheritance and being the independent director of our own life.
It’s somehow crucial to form an opinion on that. Because if you don’t know how and to which extend you can influence your life you are very likely to lose your faith and hope in life. How can you be genuinely happy without them?
In my opinion this question can cut multiple ways. It’s not an absolute question where it’s either being in control or the exact opposite. I rather see life as a process you can’t completely control. There are many factors which are co influenced by many other factors like fellow beings and their “habits” and recurring patterns.
Humans don’t entirely differ in the repetition of the past from other living organisms. I claim that most decisions humans make are out of habits therefore to a certain extent predetermined. We somehow construct an inner structure that functions similar to a computer software. The more stimuli we process the more we rely on the existing structure.
The main difference between “us” and an average computer software user is that we’re capable of updating our software on our own. We are the programmers of our life. Even if we don’t always decide in the presence we did influence the software during the past trough reflexivity.
Reflexivity is our tool to shape our future and by our actions the future of our environment. This brings a lot of responsibility with it. Sartre once said: “man is condemned to be free”.
Freedom although often seen as something entirely positive also forces you into action. Whether you like it or not but you have to handle the challenges that live confronts you with.
That does frighten a lot of people. Especially when they realize that they’ve developed profound ambivalences and unrealistic depictions of good and bad people and things. These faulty conceptions can lead to unwanted compulsions and feelings of regret, shame and guilt.
If you’re not able to reflexively work on your issues you may start punishing yourself and most likely your surrounding (un)consciously. Commonly by suppressing compulsions with denial or fighting it with consumption.
Eventually overpowering habits come to place and make it increasingly difficult to work on your issues. The spectrum of live shrinks and the hope declines. At some point of emotional isolation it’s almost impossible to solve the problems yourself and you have to seek help.
Trust in this case is the major quality one needs to regain. At a certain point minds are so troubled with negative expectations and enemy images that they become likely to construct conspiracy theories and hatred against others.
This anger can operate as a poison and totally ruin your judgment. It’s quite common that people with such a perception of the world end up in isolation and aggression. The consequences can be terrible and include a variety of violent acts. Exploitation, discrimination, abuse and murder are just a few examples of violence that have their roots in this misconception.
Therefore it’s important not to ignore or fight these states of mind only with ignorance and war. It has become a bad habit to proclaim war on almost anything, including terrorists, drugs and prostitution.
I’m not per se against a criminal justice system. But it can only be the framework for a context sensitive support system where the people learn to work on their issues.
As long as one thinks that his or her actions have nothing to do with the violence that is happening in the world, we'll progressively continue to hasten the circle of violence.
The result is on the side of the “privileged” the need for security and on the site of the “deprivileged” the aggression and the suffer trough isolation.
I believe it’s not even a win lose situation for the privileged. Despite having more recourses and not being directly violent, they need to justify their privilege trough tools of discrimination and separation. For this one need to construct himself/herself as superior to the deprivileged.
In my understanding one has to dehumanize oneself to do that. I believe that empathy is a strength that every human possesses and that it’s the engine for the personal pursuit of happiness.
Although both groups seem to suffer they don’t have equal power to change this imbalance. The absurdity is that the one’s that suffer the most have less power than the privileged ones. Even this being so there is a great chance to change the situation on both sides. The power deficit on the one side stands against the superior number of people on the other.
The biggest obstacle for change is the common feeling of isolation and hopelessness. If you believe that change isn’t possible than it won’t be.
I don’t proclaim positivism or the idea that there are easy solutions but I feel confident that mentalities can change and that they want to change. I’m convinced that everyone has the inner urge to live connected to their environment and therefore feels the suffering that is happening around them.
Momentarily many of these perceptions are stunned by consumption and other distractions like the media. In this case globalization and global warming can be seen as a great chance to weak up and to change the world.
I think current human behavior can be described by the metaphor of a frog sitting in a cold pot of water. If the water is getting heated progressively the frog won’t notice the heat and will get boiled, but if you pour boiling water into the pot, he’s gonna jump out.
Sure, it’s an oversimplification but I think there is an actual point in it. Movement and change is most likely to happen when the conditions worsen abruptly.
The point is that if we don’t wanna end up having bigger and bigger crisis where we’re forced to act rapidly to prevent worst case scenarios, than we need to rethink our priorities fundamentally.
It’s important to reflect on our prejudices and to question our use of the resources we have. Of course it seems almost impossible to live a fair live in this society, but no one expects anyone to change overnight. Small continuous steps are enough. Change should also bring enjoyment with it. If you become to dogmatic you are very likely to acerbate and fall back into old pattern or become a cynic.
It’s similar to everything else you can train – e.g. sport. If you start exercising excessively you’re very likely to quit after a couple of days. It’s crucial that you’re patient by accepting your own pace and the natural setbacks that come with everything that is unknown.
Einstein once said: “Each possession I own is like a stone around my neck” and he was right about that. Everything you earn brings responsibilities with it. It also makes you lazy, dependent and weakens your intelligence.
It’s not generally wrong to possess things but they rarely solve general problems. If they are additionally or optional than they can make your live easier, but if you’re using them for something you could easily do by yourself than they end up being a burden undermining your independence.
To sum up, I can say that we're all living our habits and that they are basically important do deal with the challenges live is confronting us with. Nevertheless it is crucial to keep them reflexive and not to naturalize them. In my believe everyone is capable of change. It's just not always the same level of effort. With some it is easier and with others is much harder. Particularly if you're in many senses underprivileged. Especially when it comes to education and other basic needs like food and water. I see the responsibility for change therefore on the side of the privileged - people like me. We have to foster some social change to crate a more just world.
I say, let's break some bad habits :)